All I have to say about that is..THAT..is some Fucked Up Shit.right there!! Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 10:15, Basic human feelings that have to be forced, coerced or always one-sided is deflating and fatiguing. Yeahand just imagine trying to trust people when you grow up with everyone telling you you don't fit inand if you let that pain in all the time, instead of shut it out, you would be a puddle on the floor. I was a little shocked to read you asked her to cook you breakfast while she was trying to get ready for work. It was a high pressure job in sales and recruiting, with a manager who later got in trouble for harrassingstaff and being absolutely unprofessional. I'm glad that's 'not in your nature'except that it is. Keep in mind that on his days off (F,ST,SN), he Does NOTHING! But if I need or expect something maybe not so much because it wont register as now/love but as someone upset whether the upsetedness is valid or not. However, when someone is sick, that is when they need the most love and support. First, BE a person with whom he would be dying to connect. After my surgeries, I couldn't do ANYTHING. But the way to stay unique and independent is to define when you will connect, rather than wait for him to notice at any time. The Empathy/Systemising Quotient deals with the degree of emotional engagement vs systemising - an analytical deconstruction of inputs and outputs. She can't fix it if she doesn't know. but I am trying to get past the resentment so now it simply feels like a friendship and some days like room mates but my goal is to remain pleasant and loving, as I would treat a friend. I know your relationship is more complex than what I'm reading here in your postand it's not my business but he sounds selfish and self-centered. He is Extremely self centered, has No Empathy or Sympathy for anyone except himself. I hope you left him. All big red flags. You are not important. We had an argument this morning where he says I am always in pain, etc. WebMaybe he's the kind of person who doesn't want to be bothered when he's sick. Press J to jump to the feed. If that's something that you can't handle, it's best to call it off. No wonder folks with ADHD have built up some walls. Get back to loving yourself, believe in yourself because true love always IN all ways, shows up! If I could boil down the difficulties, it really does come down to lack of love as you described. Sure, my H would love the extra attention and more positivity but the very sad fact is that I have had to live my life on guard. When someone is sick or injured.I'm first respondentjust so you know? WebSign #7: He doesnt ask you any questions about you and doesnt seem interested in who you are. My husband is friendly and nice until I am sick. You cant change something you dont know needs to be fixed. a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read, Tell me about it..My husband lacks sympathy for me and the kids, His entertainment comes before anything else, They take as much as they can for as long as we allow it, Yes Dear Dede sadly we do know of that you speak:), https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/empathy-and-adhd. I've had to take a de-greaser and scrub them all down to get the old slimy grease off of all of them. I am ok. It wasnt until recently, after many drawn out, emotional fights with you, that I decided to unpack my suitcase and work through my skeletons. It is not only me he has no sympathy for, it is his children as well. All part of marriage, I guess. Are you sick often? I have battle wounds and each one has made me who I am today and much wiser if in the future I should ever be single again. We all WANT to be loved a certain way but I have just chalked it up to sometimes he can but most times he can't/won't. The house is in shambles, and is a complete mess everywhere you look.It looks like I stepped into a scene from "Hoarders", the television show. She says take medicine or go to doctor. There absolutely is an empathy and emotional disconnect which fuels this, and without that empathy the rest of the ADHD partner's response is heavily coloured. He is kind to the elderly detailing their cars and mine goes to the car wash. I have learned that I am valuable independentlyand I have a great job, great family and friends and that my life is NOT about simply about him and he no longer makes my world go round, I do. I am a romantic to this day. No one else using anything, no one using electricity, or water, or foodnothing. Stay away from me!" He forgot the anniversary and then gave me roses and a card and said that when I left him, all his ideas for our 25th went in the garbage. If your betta lives in an unfiltered setup youll need to completely change his water and clean his tank weekly. NOTHING HELPED. I've been reading the posts for the last few weeks with great interest. Etc. Submitted by vabeachgal on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 18:15. 2 months ago I had a Hysterectomy. So if you want to connect, you will likely be the one to have to bring it up. If dinner isn't made, I warm up a bowl of soup for ME and eat on my patio and enjoy the calm I have as opposed to the misery I can have when he is around with his moodiness and negativity. Make sure that the timing is convenient for both of you. It sucks but thats what it is. Everyone desires someone to pay attention to them from time to time, without having to demand it or schedule it . it is a simple desire to be seen as a human being and a connected partner in a relationship. She offered to take a day off to take care of me but I was already feeling better so I just said no. When he is having a great day, like this past Saturday, my efforts were worth it but I won't pretend that he is fixed. I wish you the best. But it was terrible to watch my child suffer like that. Talk to her and use 'I need" statements. The next morning I woke up with chills and a fever of over 100. I get dizziness, irritability, mood swings, left sided weakness, severe nerve pain, and killer headaches with my autoimmune attacks. Sign #10: Not protective over you at all. Then came 2013, January. I don't trust him now, and I have good reason not to. Now I'm going to get sick! We havent heard from you in a while, and Im hoping you are ok. I signed up for a local meal prep service, where they prepped a few dinners. She even acts like I am somehow putting her out by not being 100%. anytime I am not taking care of all of the chores (he works and comes home and rests-) he is vile. However Ive come to the realization that hes not the same as me. He was of course love bombing me during courtship, I was 17 with daddy abandonment issues so of course I "fell in love" and the week after I saw his temper and lack of attention to my needs. Just the feeling at the moment. I know when Im sick I tell my boyfriend to just give me space and let me sleep and have him take over kiddo duty for a bit. Being unhelpful when someone is sick or injured strongly suggests either Borderline PD or Narcissistic PD. Once shes mad, the first step to resolving it is by me apologizing. He was so sick he couldn't even think well enough to do his homework. WebA female reader, aunt honesty +, writes (19 November 2011): It doesn't mean that he doesn't care. I bet if I got cancer he'd go "Great! A place for sharing the for-better and for-worse of marriage. Never underestimate the callousness of the narcissist. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I'll talk to my wife when she gets home. I love sex.while I am in the act of doing it..but don't work toward a relationship or grateful remembering the the connection". Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to give me a kiss and I tell him that he shouldn't kiss me because I'm getting a scratchy throat and most likely a cold and his response isn't one of sympathy, instead it's "Greeeeeeat! and my child will throw up or have a fever. He appears not to care youre pregnant and youre feeling unsupported. Because you are doing it and should own your behavior. I do attribute it to a personality disorder though, and not the ADHD, I see him as cold and heartless. He wrote me a letter saying how he fell in love in college, and she left him, and he didn't want to feel "that hurt" again, so he basically shut "that part" of himself down, so that he wouldn't FEEL that. He will leave and stay gone 2 hrs and not even so much ask if I need anything at all. Submitted by AdeleS6845 on Wed, 12/14/2016 - 08:44. Even says just because I am sick, he is not going to pet me. Right now I'm back at the house trying to get some stuff in order. I truly don't think he SEES the damage that all of this caused me AND him, mainly because he still doesn't think his ADHD has that much affect on our daily lives. Its good to have a healthy balance. I am a Marvel hero, as you have said. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 09:54. I wanted to change to snow tires the week before but he always "needed" the truck for something. To us I should say. Thankfully, our two children were happy to help me. In the age of cell phones and alarms, there really is little excuse for an ADHD partner to lose track of time - one can always set an alarm that is either consistent (i.e. WebIs it normal for a husband to not take care of his wife when she falls sick? Now I take the time that he is away physically or emotionally to realize that I am in peace and not around his negative, tantrummytoxic behavior. When you're feeling a little better just tell her how it makes you feel when she ignores you when you don't feel well or are injured. I was still in therapy and my therapist, who is a mutual friend and took me on pro-bono, helped me so much to rebuild my esteem, stop being co-dependent. WebNow I'm going to get sick! I dont expect to be doted on and coddled when Im sick, but some level of I am flaberggasted. At one point my manager demanded I go see a medical doctor, which I already had, and because I was past two weeks of antibiotics and still sick, I was refused treatment. That put yourself in these situations and then wonder why things happen to you. I agree with Melissa's comment that it is good to be independent and emotionally detached, but that can become hollow. It took me 27 years to stop being jealous when he treated other women better than me and hyperfocused on gadgets and not me. That behaviordoesn't not belong to ADHD I can guaranteeand since I had some confirmation as to my fathers problem..I can say that in his casethat was NPD! What? Its a cultural thing as a whole. I even passed out in front of my kids on the floor, and they had to yell at him to help me. It means you're a dumb ass push over that loves acting like a victim. Love. I had to step down onto the patio from the back door. He love(s) the one he is with..as in.."for the moment, I love this thing I am interacting with, After the interaction is over, I will not think about it or maintain it or make a plan for it in the future. AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally I scrolled through my phone contacts and one name popped out, an old mutual friend of ours. So pick your battles my friends and learn about yourself in the process. a pleasure". His sister died from alcoholism about 8 years ago, she was only 51. And I can tell you one thing without a doubt or question in my mind? My husband is terrible when it comes to this. 2 yrs ago I was in a serious car accident. I need to see if Iam wrong about this. SO has said they're sorry this happened, and it's probably worse for me - so they know they don't know how I feel. The tender, close, intimate kind of love that touches your heart and soul, and makes you feel genuinely connected in a deeper emotionally inter-connected way. Of course. Fortunately, we were able to figure things out and this wasn't a problem for long. Sometimes that takes the form of cuddling or doing something together like a walk/talk. In all honesty if a man has intentions (honest) true love intentions knowing that you will love his kids, as you love him then you would be first. He hates the snow. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 22:58. Then, why the * are they looking for a life partner in the first place?. Empathy, love, and Gatorade are amazing to have, but the rest is all you. You go through all of this, the burden of having a partner with a chronic illness who is always sick, the worry when I dont text back for a while and you know Im I know my friends ahave been instrumental in plugging that gap for me. Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 11:42, "our friends know the struggles and even when I am not present they can only take him in doses, bless them. Stop selling your soul for sex, money or a sense of security. This means you may think it's obvious when you need a hug or some connection, but they may not 'see' it. That is when a person is the Otherwise she knows that I will go down and get whatever I want. Get out now and look for greener pastured. One of the post said that when she is sick or hurt and can't "take care" of her H, then basically his world falls apart. And my mother ( the other one with ADHD who I got it from? When I confront him about what I'm thinking about how he acts, he becomes defensive and gets angry. When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. Sorry guys, I just had to vent and get it out of my system. If your S.O. All I can say is wow. Yeap, but there are moments I'm being shitty too so I thought to myself this is just fair. Run!!! Thats it. I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. I was trying to do something simple. (Although I didn't make him do the dishes). It was a costly move but I just was happy he was getting help. My memories hold no feelings of love because I am not experienceing them right now. I was really pissed and hurt that he didnt seem to care. That is my H 100%! Well, to be frank, that will vary from person to person as we all display love in different ways. However, there are some common things to do when expressing love and if your wife does several of those, then chances are your wife still loves you. Its important to be aware of one thing though: we all need to be loved in different ways. I grew up in a house where you were basically quarantined when sick. Sometimes, he can be vindictive in a passive way, like after I left him for that one month. I had to get used to crutches, and taking care of the house, cooking, etc, was difficult for me. He said it was too clinical and she was cold. Ya, it sucks being sick but it's a stomach bug. Of course, the more the therapist learned, the more it just reinforced what he already knew. Remind her of how bad you feel and how much you'd appreciate her help while you recover. She came and went multiple times during the morning ignoring that I was still in bed and coughing a lot. And I take. No, not really. I was a great person to be around but the lies hurt and changed me. Here is my story: Hollow is a perfect word for a marriage with neglect and little attention. I couldn't even keep them down or even water it was so bad and my mom called the Doc back and he said if I couldn't keep the water or pills down to take me into the emergency room? Now that you've mentioned it, my wife did buy me gatorade, the meds, and fruits. So I don't ask for anything beyond desperate needs. So i'm just learning but this is an ADHD trait? Like, my sympathy well was pretty shallow when I had 2 sick kids and a sick husband. I have learned to compartmentalize my life and he is 20% of it now. I have loved you for a long time, and we have been through so much together, but what Ive recently learned is this: You could care less about my illness. I can't help but think there is SOMETHING ELSE WRONG WITH HIM. If I'm sick or hurt (e.g. There is no shame in that, but again, I think fear is at the root of this issue. Hed get one color half done, then start on a new color somewhere else. How would he manage without me, his Bandaid? I offered to set it up on his phone but of course he won't relinquish his phone, which is another story, and the primary basis of my divorce request. It gets to you after a while I feel lonely most of the day I get really depressed he wants me to clean up all the time when he goes (figues) but I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety it's hard for me to get up to doing simple tasks it's even harder when I have to do it on my own. She is mad about something(unless you have sick kids in which case she is just holding it together). Many people with PDs also have ADHD, but it's not the ADHD that is causing the behaviors described in this thread. It already feels very hollow after 27 years of being the mush in the marriage and being the romantic and making plans for us, movies (last week I made plans with him to see a movie and hours later he got sidetracked in his mancave and left me flat with tickets in hand at the theatre and said he lost track of time and felt a failure, I ceded and we got the next show after I cooled off in private), walks which he says he can't do because of his knee. It appears you entered an invalid email. It tends to be E>S in females, and S>E in males, and S>E in ADHD regardless of gender. I was hospitalized for 3 days after that since I was infected by the local food and I was pregnant. Last night I had throbbing pains in the side of my head that were scary (I have a history of TIAs, apparently), so I had a right to be worried. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 14:07. So cultural. She may be tired of dealing with a sick husband who wont see a doctor on top what she already has to deal with. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. He made me pay that year for leaving. Submitted by Exhaustedlady87 (not verified) on Fri, 11/15/2019 - 16:54. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. I've seen SO deeply moved by the plight of others. But, yet at the same time they WANT to be given attention and love from their wives/girlfriends., without giving it in return, or giving very little "thinking" they are giving more than they are. I just need a bit of support lol anyway, my wife won't be back until 4 PM. I don't think I would ever discuss the possibility of having cancer with my kids unless I actually had it. Submitted by PoisonIvy on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 15:38. I am still me; I am unchanged to you. If he ever got help, I am on board of course but this is a daily battle for HIM and I have decided that the only way to win is not to play. That takes some effort, but is doable by almost all. He is scared about his health lately. Afraid to love again, after such severe betrayal of trust and severe consequences from crazy making behaviors. And of course, my fave from Walter Mitty movie "Beautiful things don't ask for attention. But I'm still keeping out of the way and limiting the inconvenience. Submitted by peach on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 16:07. Some otc antacids helped. (Soup after you just threw up is too soon). But I havent been acting like it. Good point. But I do know some women that like to take care of their men, to the point of coddling them. We can't FIX some of this stuff on our own. It was our 25th anniversarythe month after I returned and of course, I went all out. And vice versa if she's the one down ill. Can't really prepare good food when you're nauseous and fked up all over. Second, gently encourage him to connect. It CHANGED ME, and I'm not who I used to be. Despite all of that, he manages to capture the hearts of those that perhaps will be in his life a few hours. I got a friend to help, the truck, got a place to go, separated the bills (still paid his cell and medical in case he went to therapy), wrote a letter and tired to live with him without acknowledging his last tantrum, my pain and still having sex and accepting his hugs and sucking up to me and trying not to cave or vomit. You dont care about my illness. 5 signs of an unsupportive husband during pregnancy. 1) Shes never on your side. I know this may sound "corny", lol, but I don't think I'm too off base with this. Being romantic just to get sex will be seen as manipulative. Talk about unprofessional. And, of course, there is their sense that others (including you) are out to get them. Instead he walked around the car, got in the back seat and proceeded to yell at me for the next 15 min about how "he does not have time for this" & "why did I call him(my husband) and not my sister or my niece". And I'm also feeling better. I take care of her in sickness and in health.but our kids still come first. If you feel leaving him will make you happy then do it. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. The unfinished projects and dreams. Privacy Anyway, so many of us deal with this kind of disconnect that seems completely 100% effin impossible for us to understand. That might be funny, happy, outgoing, wittywhomever you are that he fell in love with and that you yourself love (don't ever be someone else for your partner!). He played video games.A LOT, and watched a lot of movies, and cook his food in deep fryers which has made the house smell like an old dirty grease pit, with the cupboards, shelves, and countertops, floors, all caked with grease. I invite him to things I know he will say no to just to be nice but then I go and enjoy myself. His mother died from Alzhiemer's, but was bi-polar and whatever else. No hugs, kisses, attention, praise, cuddling just for cuddlings sake. 50K views, 259 likes, 10 loves, 511 comments, 68 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Dr. Phil: He Eats a Raw Animal Meat Diet #rawmeat #DrPhil #talkshow etc. Whenever I am sick, all I get from my husband is sorry. We've been married 17 years. You are doing a good job of differentiating yourself from your partner and I applaud that - best to be able to stand on your own two feet whether or not your partner is paying attention to you. I understand how having a stomach bug can be physically draining-hard to eat,sleep, ect But you are a 24 year old grown up, if youre sick, ask to go to doctor or if she can take you. I want to say Thank you for sharing your story. I see we are out of aspirin and ask him if he knows of any in the house. Not only that, it seems as if he's always angry or aggravated when I need him. That's his job. A few weeks ago, he reiterated (I think he's said this once before) why nothing worked: while he professed to wanting a relationship with me, he actually is unable to form personal connections. I can not tell you how much I can relate to you and everyone else that has posted. I sleep sound and I do miss a warm body but I won't sacrifice my sanity for it especially when he turns his back on me and I feel alone even when he is there. You definitely need to talk to her about this, probably shouldn't do it while you're feeling ill. Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 06:51. Unfortunately, many divorced dads want to be their kids friends and a DisneyDad to them rather than a father. But that was a lot of days for him to be unable to make any time for you. I paid for every cent at that point and insurance for me/him. Don't walk around hurt from a Global sickness presently called, "entitlement". Like I was some animal in the Zooand he was just coming to see the specimen out of curiosity. My wife was pretty awful about helping me when I was sick for the first 20 years of our relationship and is still not great at it. My A-Hole ex Husband was a jerk to me when I broke my foot the year before we divorced. This becomes a real problem for me in one area especially. I've told our kids that THEY will be in charge of me if I ever get cancer or something like that. Which to that, I feel he used me to have someone to marry and to love HIM, but he knew he wasn't going to return that. My experience with ADD people is they are takers. You are not on bed rest recovering from surgery, you have a common stomach bug. this was my question. I really would like some aspirin now and not in 5 hours! "We can't afford it", but we can't afford to NOT call in someone. registered trademarks of Ziff Davis Canada, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without If they get ill first, and then I get ill? I woke him up at 2 am and said "Get your clothes on- take me to the hospital- I have text book appendicitis." You go through all of this, the burden of having a partner with a chronic illness who is always sick, the worry when I dont text back for a while and you know Im home alone, the household chores I cant do, not because you dont care about my illness, but because you care about me. to stand on my own and realize that until he gets help, this will not change and so it was time to live and grow and be "the mistress of my domain and my life". Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. Fear,is the one that gets the most use, and what he bases most of his interactions with. He went to the session and was diagnosed with PTSD and ADHD. She was in the hospital two days and has a 3 week recovery time frame. My husband has a 'man cold' right now. H's definition of love is thisafter I asked him "What does love mean to you?" I was out of character. Just comes to the door and looks at me like a piece of meat and then walks away and leaves after all of that? Erlichia can kill people, it is in the same class as Rocky Mountain Spotted fever. And I also have to include.I have a very low toleranceto this kind of behavior!! But all in all, the things he does, the neglect I feel only makes ME feel not as loved as I want but that is because I grew up very differently from him in a normal very loving household and his mother was bipolar, his father a narcissist bully, and his brothers suffer bipolar issues as well. I feel like with every post, I am reading about myself. Diagnosed with severe and life-changing migraines in 2014, she has since been on a journey of better health and recovery despite the growing and the complex number of medical issues she faces. He told I just had the flu and went to bed. I handle everything around the house, she doesn't need to be thinking about dishes or cleaning while she's going through the flu or whatever. Guy didnt wish me happy birthday am I wrong to be upset? Alright. So I've (40m) been married ten years now and I love my wife (40f), but she has the most annoying behavior pattern whenever I am sick. If I ever mention his behavior of that day, he gets mad at me and tells me that "I Never let things go and that I am to blame because I can't "forgive" him". You are not important. It seems likely he would like the opportunity to feel affection from you, as wellso perhaps would be motivated. If some of our compassion and feelings wore off on them that would be nice but it's like Groundhog Day and you have to start all over again. When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. Thank her sincerely for doing these things to you inspite of her 'reservations'. That's great! I will not call for a man when I am sick. Not doing anything about it will make you resentful. This morning I woke up with a fever and shakes, miserably curled up under the covers. He threatened to sue me and the doctor because the kid had to go temporarily on multiple antibiotics to help knock down the infections. An the cycle continues. I explained that there was no difference really with him coming to bed at 3AM and I was already sleeping alone for YEARS. Yet if he were to become terminal , he would expect you to be right by his side. Run!!! You don't want to marry a man with kids, trust me. All this crap about his kids "coming first" is just thatcrap. When you marry, the two Thank you for reminding me that it's me and my wife with each other now. The only thing he has genuinely shared from his therapy was the conclusion that he lies to everyone all the time. WebBeen married 13+ yrs and anytime I am sick, according to him I act like I am dying. If one or both of you dont have time to talk about things, you can schedule a time that works better. Being in a constantly defensive state (as are the chronic blamers of the world) means ADHD adults can become really good at detachingand awful at attaching. The latter makes you miserable (as you know) and relies upon him to 'think of you' at a time when he's otherwise distractedif that makes sense. Maybe I'm just expecting a bit too much. A male. But at the end of the day if it is really bothering you well then you need to talk to him about it and tell him how it made you feel. Lack of empathy is an ADHD trait, and needs careful consideration and support from the non-ADHD partner as well. 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